最近看了、也经历了很多也许不大相关的东西,但是其实到最后总感觉都是同一件事。
一方面,是默认恶意、独善其身、审判性的;另一面是宽容、彼此依赖、开放沟通、默认善意,以理解为出发点,把他人的快乐当成自己的一部分的。
看到一段话,I’m talking about rapists and murderers. Leaders of child sex-trafficking rings. The works. And you want to know what they all have in common? They all think people are out to get them. It’s causing me to wonder if distrust doesn’t bring out the worst in us. I know it’s a complicated issue, because nearly everybody I put in prison has been tragically abused and so it’s natural they don’t trust others and they see life as a kill-or-be-killed drama. But it makes me wonder about those of us who deal with the same issue in lesser percentages. I wonder about my own heart. Am I willing to be hurt occasionally and turn the other cheek in order to have a long-term, healthy relationship?
还有will说的,kindness is an acquired taste.
Trust that other people want the best for you.
Believe that you are good for other people.
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